J.K. Riki

Encouragement vs. Discouragement

In our lives we inevitably come upon situations with both encouraging and discouraging responses. If you’re anything like me, you may find that you unconsciously focus on the negative replies. Here we find ourselves with an opportunity. We cannot change the responses we get. They are from outside us. But we can change our focus. This is akin to the quote by Maya Angelou who said “If you don’t like…
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One of those weeks!

I have several topics I’d like to write about, but none seem quite right. I need a little more time to consider them and make necessary edits, so I apologize but I’m going to miss today’s regular update. I’d rather not just post something for the sake of posting. I hope that next week’s update will be far stronger as a result. Thanks for understanding!

Not Broken Doesn’t = Great

Have you ever tried to change a routine? When we form habits, breaking them and changing gears is tough. We have a process that has been refined to work for us, and sometimes even work extremely well. This past week I switched from a piece of software I’ve been using for more than a decade to something new. Why change a process that works for something different? If it’s not…
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The Benefits of a Visual To-Do List

How might a small change in to-do list creation have a big impact on motivation? Each year I create a list of things I’d like to accomplish (or at least keep in mind) during the stretch from January to December. This gives me an opportunity to check in once a month and be reminded of things I might have put on the back burner or forgotten about. Last year I…
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For some, it might be sexually explicit images. Others, perhaps, get their kicks from the rush of political power. Or fame, or wealth, or material possessions. To me, the very word “relaunch” sends shivers up the spine. Okay, maybe that’s being a little melodramatic. Still, anyone who has been around long enough knows I used to relaunch FredtheMonkey.com like it was always going out of style. As soon as a…
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Picture It

I have a vase on my desk, and inside is a single flower. It’s a pink Gerber Daisy. I find Gerber Daisies to be such uplifting flowers. Though Plumeria will always be my favorite, there’s a special place in my world for Gerber Daisies. In fact, I recently made that place in my world for them. A while back, while reading through a book about material possessions, I came across…
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What Drives You?

We all need a driving force if we want to be productive. The sheer number of shows on Netflix encourage us to sit and consume (the opposite of producing) until we slowly turn to dust. Or, if you don’t have Netflix, there are plenty of activities in our world to eat away all our time, from birth to death. For many, money is a driving force. Whether that be for…
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The 3AM Conundrum

I often wake up in the middle of the night. Sometimes it’s because of a dream, while other times some health issue forces me awake. On occasion I will just find myself staring into the dark for no real reason at all, unable to fall back to sleep. Being wide awake in the middle of the night can be a tricky thing to deal with. I usually have a wealth…
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Practicing What You Preach

I am a big proponent of loving people. In my experience (and a lot of data backs it up elsewhere, too) you can have a much more positive effect on people by caring about them and showing them kindness than any alternative. Growing up, my mother often guided me with the proverb of “You get more with honey than you do with vinegar.” I’ve tried many methods for dealing with…
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Vacation Time!

I have decided to take a vacation. Not from my life or work or even this blog (for this post marks the return from hiatus!) but a vacation from being sick. This is, of course, very odd. After all, you mostly don’t get to decide if your body is unwell. However I was put on a new medication for two weeks, and then the doctor and I will reevaluate the…
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