This past weekend I found myself in a terribly unhappy mood. I’m sure you’ve been there before. This journey of life has us all go through the dark valleys at one time or another.
During that time, I saw very clearly that I needed to change my mindset in order to escape it. I needed to focus on the good things, or at least consider that the bad was not that bad at all. I’m thankful I was able to see it that clearly, due to advanced training.
Still, all the training in the world does nothing if you’re unwilling to take action.
No one wants to hear this when they’re sad or depressed. In fact, it’s usually the least helpful thing you can say to remind someone in that state that they have to want to change things if things are going to get better. In the pit, it’s hard to see any way out. Sometimes you just want to wallow, even when you don’t think you do.
And yet, the truth remains the truth. It is an internal switch that can only be flipped yourself. Outside support and love helps, of course, but you and you alone must make the choice to focus on the good or the bad. And focusing on the good does not magically lift a curtain, there’s still a long road ahead to change your mood. It’s merely step one. No inspirational speaker in the world can pull you from the darkness if you want to remain there.
It helps to know this. When you know it, you can make the choice, whatever you choose. Otherwise you’re left stuck thinking there’s nothing you can do. There is something you can do, it just seems impossible some days. But it’s worth it to step out of the darkness. It’s worth it to breathe deep and turn back towards the light.